This is too true. While cell phones connect us, they also pull us apart. In a world where anybody can do business with anybody, isn’t it more likely that people will do business with you if they feel that you respect them?This is a talk by Simon Sinek, downloaded and transcribed from Youtube. Mr. Sinek often talks about how technology is ruining our lives.
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Cell Phone Addiction
We have a responsiblity as marketers to help our clients use technology to bring people together. We have a responsiblity as companies to offer people who work in our companies a sense that we are helping them build their confidence, that we are helping them ovecome their addictions, (and) that we’re going to teach them patience.
I’m gonna teach them how to build strong personal relationships. We don’t have a choice. We have a higher burden upon us and there’s so many little things that we can do. We are failing horribly at. It is so easy. Let me show you one.
Can I borrow someone’s phone please? Anyone? Thank you.
OK. There is a subconscious reaction to these devices when we use them. OK? What if I were to hold my phone in my hand while I’m talking to you. I’m not checking it. It’s not buzzing. It’s not beeping. I’m not even. . . nothing. I’m just holding it. Do you feel at this moment that you are the most important thing to me right now? No you do not. Because there is a subconscious reaction we have to the device. When it is out, it makes the people around us feel that they are less important.
So when we are walking down the halls in our offices and somebody says “Hey Boss. Can I ask you a question?” You go, “Sure. What’s on your mind?” We’ve just told them they aren’t that important. Or, we can go, “Sure. What’s on your mind?” And if you don’t have a pocket, find a shelf, put it on the shelf, come back and say “Sure. What’s on your mind?”
When we show up to a meeting, or a lunch, or a dinner, with our colleagues or our clients or our friends, or our families, and we put the phone on the table, we have announced to everyone in the room that they are not that important to us. And, by the way, putting the phone upside down is not more polite.
My favorite one is when the meeting or at a lunch with someone, that the phone will ring and the caller ID will pop up and they will go, “I’m not going to get it.”. Oh! So magnanimous! Oh, lucky to eat with you today. Or, they could just put the damn thing away. You can tell how addicted we are when somebody pulls out their phone when you are with them, how uncomfortable does that make us feel? You ae walking down the street with someone and they pull their phone out. We feel stupid, so what do we do? We pull our phones out.
We’re so addicted when somebody goes to the bathroom at dinner and: What? We have to sit there by ourselves and God forbid that we have to look around the room for five minutes. We pull our phones out. Meetings. Awful. What do we do when a meeting happens? Right. Everybody’s sitting there waiting for the meeting to start, “Bob’s running a few minutes late. Bob’s here. OK. Start the meeting.” Do you know when relationships are built? All that in between time. Thank you very much.
作为营销人员，我们有责任帮助客户使用技术将人们聚集在一起。作为公司的责任，我们有责任为在我们公司工作的人提供一种感觉，即我们正在帮助他们建立信心，我们正在帮助他们克服他们的成瘾，（和）我们将教他们耐心。
我要教他们如何建立牢固的人际关系。我们没有选择。我们有更高的负担，我们可以做很多小事。我们失败的可怕。这很容易。让我告诉你一个。
我可以借一个人的电话吗？任何人？谢谢。
好。当我们使用它们时，会对这些设备产生潜意识的反应。好？如果我在和你说话的时候把手机拿在手里怎么办？我不是在检查它。这不是嗡嗡声。这不是哔哔声。我不是。 。 。没有。我只是拿着它。你现在感觉到你对我来说是最重要的事吗？你不可以。因为我们对设备有潜意识的反应。当它外出时，它会让我们周围的人觉得它们不那么重要。
因此，当我们走进办公室的大厅时，有人说“嘿老板。我可以问你一个问题吗？”你走了，“当然。你在想什么？”我们刚刚告诉他们他们并不那么重要。或者，我们可以说：“当然。你有什么想法？”如果你没有口袋，找一个架子，放在架子上，回来说“当然。你有什么想法？”
当我们与同事或我们的客户或朋友或我们的家人出席会议，午餐或晚宴时，我们将电话放在桌子上，我们已向房间里的每个人宣布他们是对我们来说并不重要。而且，顺便说一句，将手机倒置并不是更有礼貌。
我最喜欢的是在会议或与某人共进午餐时，电话会响起，来电显示会弹出，他们会说：“我不会得到它。”哦!如此宽宏大量！哦，幸运的是今天和你一起吃饭。或者，他们可以把该死的东西拿走。你可以告诉我们当你和他们一起拿出手机时我们是多么上瘾，这让我们感到多么不舒服？你和某人走在街上，他们把手机拉出来。我们觉得很蠢，所以我们该怎么办？我们把手机拿出来了。
当有人在晚餐时去洗手间时我们上瘾了：什么？我们必须独自坐在那里，上帝禁止我们在房间里看五分钟。我们把手机拿出来了。会议。可怕。会议发生时我们该怎么办？对。每个人都坐在那里等待会议开始，“鲍勃迟到了几分钟。鲍勃在这里。好的。开始会议。”你知道什么时候建立关系吗？所有这些都在时间之间。非常感谢你。